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PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5

30 Apr 08 - 06:19 AM (#2329560)
Subject: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

Just to cover some of the ground again, you may remember that when Jacqui and I moved out here to Upper Dogsbottom aka Deliverance, to our great surprise and delight we found that one of Jacqui's oldest friends, Pete Hicks (a long time ago of the Crayfolk, 12-string player from hell) had committed serial matrimony and was living in the next village up the road (aka Upper Class Dogsbottom).

Well, in the fullness of time Jacqui died 6 days after Sweeps festival 2003. For a year or so, following on from her magnificent wake, I held a barbecue here in memoriam.

Pete died almost to the day 4 years later, just after Sweeps 2007. He too had a magnificent wake.

Dilligaf decided to have a barbecue this year to mark that and I suggested that it would be suitable to have a joint one, since if you believe in any sort of afterlife, it will be time for their joint annual singaround. I have already invited family and a selection of direct friends, and Dilligaf has already invited Bishop Guldulfs Morris and various friends and family and will also be seeing many morrissers who knew and admired Pete over the coming Sweeps; festival weekend

So there it is. All welcome. 10th May, Forge House, High Street, Lower Stoke, ME3 9RD, barbecue, from about 2-ish to falling over time. Bring it and burn it format. We provide a certain amount of beer, and charcoal and barbecues to burn things in. Maybe some green stuff too. Bring voices and instruments. I am pleased to say that my step-daughter has said she will come all the way from the Royal triangle and if she can be persuaded to sing you will be in for a treat. Regrettably my noisy daughter is in the Costa Del Wossname but she has said she will sing a song from there so if you listen hard you may just hear her.

There may be an attempt to provide bad weather cover. It is not guaranteed, but there is a fair amount of space in the house. If anyone needs al-halal cooking, there is a small barbecue not used before so arrive early and use it first. If anyone needs kosher cooking, I think the same rules apply so please use the same small barbecue. If no-one uses the small barbie for religious meat, it could be used for vegetarian barbecuing or I have a small hibachi that I can run through the dishwasher first (if warned). Bring your own small barbecue if you wish. The house 'fridges do not separate dairy products, and the garage 'fridge and the caravan 'fridge have had mixed use. If this is a problem for you I am sorry but you will need to bring your own cold box.


Usual rules:

1. The terrace is uneven and unstable. The steps are different sizes. No duty of care to avoid or alleviate those circumstances is accepted. If you fall, from those or any other reasons, or otherwise suffer any personal injury, no liability is (subject to Section 2 of the Unfair Contract Terms Act) accepted.
2. There is now only one dog, Benjamin the large Border collie (cross). Do not tease him, do not feed him, do not pretend to feed him and then try to take the food away. Do not throw toys for him or you will have a job for life and he trains people better than most people train him. Do not try to hold him by the collar, he was rescue and I think some of his former owners used to do that to beat him. He does not like it. He is not a "dangerous dog" nor is he "out of control". In fact he is usually quite safe and friendly, but no duty of care to keep guests safe from him is accepted.   If you suffer any personal injury, caused or contributed to by him, no liability is (subject to Section 2 of the Unfair Contract Terms Act) accepted.
3. Beware of the cat. If he stays around, he may invite you to tickle his tummy, and once you are in range, and lulled into a false sense of security, he may strike! If you suffer any personal injury, caused or contributed to by him, no liability is (subject to Section 2 of the Unfair Contract Terms Act) accepted.
4. Park in the car-park opposite. This is Deliverance territory. Do not challenge the locals to play "Duelling Banjos". Do not leave your car unlocked. Do not park anyone in. Do not give local yoof "the eye". If Mad Mick, the local bare knuckle champion, gives you a big hug, buy him a drink quickly. No duty of care to keep guests' persons or property safe outside the curtilage of my dwelling is accepted.   If you suffer any personal injury, or any other loss or damage of any kind or nature whatsoever, no liability is accepted.
5. Anyone likely to need overnight accommodation afterwards, please advise in advance. There is a ghost, Emily. Do not try to exorcise her. She is not an evil or dangerous spirit. In fact she is usually quite safe and sometimes friendly (if you don't mind having your hair pulled), but no duty of care to keep guests safe from her is accepted.   If you suffer any personal or psychological or theological injury, caused or contributed to by her, no liability is (subject to Section 2 of the Unfair Contract Terms Act) accepted.
6. The house next door is vacant. The pub next door is derelict. The dwelling part of the shop the other side is fairly well away, so there are no noise restrictions, but there will not be a PA rig.


30 Apr 08 - 07:51 AM (#2329611)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Don(Wyziwyg)T

Will attend, accompanied by bottle, guitar, and wife with poetry, subject to said wife shaking off what GP calls a low level viral infection.

It certainly did lay her low, and she is currently weak as a kitten.

Don T.


30 Apr 08 - 08:06 AM (#2329623)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

Disprin has some antiviral effect, I heard. I hope it is not the recurrence of anything worse. Look forward to seeing you.


30 Apr 08 - 08:22 AM (#2329636)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Girl Friday

Trevor, Ben and I will probably come, but will be away early,as RTB is doing a charity gig at Ruskin House, Croydon in the evening. incidentally, Ben has been offered Leigh Folk festival and a support gig for Ron at Redbourn.


30 Apr 08 - 09:06 AM (#2329681)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: GUEST,Essex Girl

I'll be there Richard - I've already requested floor space I believe.I'll bring chairs etc. if necessary. Do you need any gazebo's?


30 Apr 08 - 10:37 AM (#2329770)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

Yes Linda, floor, spare bed, caravan, whatever.

The jury is out on gazebos - I'll email you if I can't get a small marquee.

Can I borrow your barbies? Lots better than mine! I can bring a volvo up to collect in advance if that makes life easier.


30 Apr 08 - 06:20 PM (#2330174)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: melodeonboy

I've got a gig in Maidstone in the evening, but I hope to come out there earlier during the day. Growler's also coming.


01 May 08 - 05:27 AM (#2330403)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

Refresh:

Val has decided to buy a big gazebo for her party that is not too many weeks later so there will be wet weather cover.

Val is ordering beer (to be delivered here so I can pay for it!).

We think that a supermarket or B&Q will be as cheap as anywhere for charcoal unless anyone knows better.


01 May 08 - 08:54 AM (#2330499)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: The Sandman

hope it goes well.Dick Miles


01 May 08 - 08:58 AM (#2330506)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: GUEST,Essex Girl

Richard, yes you may borrow the Barbies. Do you want the two half barrel ones that I use for my BBQ? I'll check if they'll go in my car. I know one will but they are quite an awkward shape so I may not be able to get both in but I'll give it a go.


01 May 08 - 09:50 AM (#2330552)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

Yes, the two half-barrels, not the sparkly dolls, please. It's the legs that are awkward (on the barrells, not the dolls(!)) which was why I said I could bring a Volvo to get them.

A very butch friend of mine had a sparkle-top Gretsch, a real country killer guitar. One day his young daughter said to him "Daddy, it's a Barbie guitar". He sold it immediately.


01 May 08 - 08:09 PM (#2331071)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: GUEST,Girl Friday

If you have a 99p shop somewhere- they sell charcoal I believe. We could get it if you can't- otherwise Morrison's probably cheapest supermarket


02 May 08 - 07:48 PM (#2331629)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

Refresh


03 May 08 - 05:03 PM (#2332239)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: growler

I shall be going to 'Rainham Meats' in Strood. If anyone wants me to pickup something and settle up later, let me know


03 May 08 - 07:55 PM (#2332310)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: dilligafxx

Interesting Rainham meats in Strood why not Strood meats in Strood and you be careful, you can pick up some nasty things in ST Rood to get it right gone posh aint it !! since Laird Peter Hamilton Currie moved in or Blossom as he is also known. If you see me around sweeps buy me a pint or ask me for a printed slip of paper so you can show the natives of the pernisuala if you get lost and if you can find one who can read (JOKE) XX


04 May 08 - 07:13 PM (#2332919)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

Refresh


04 May 08 - 07:37 PM (#2332929)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: melodeonboy

"...why not Strood meats in Strood....!"

Because Strood Meats are in Rainham!


05 May 08 - 04:27 PM (#2333530)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: growler

You pratt Melodianboy, when did you last see a cow in Strood


05 May 08 - 05:48 PM (#2333602)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Zany Mouse

Oh how I wish we lived nearer. Hope it goes well.

Rhiannon


05 May 08 - 05:52 PM (#2333607)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

It's be safer than a sheep on the Isle of Grain...

(or indeed a carrot on St Mary's Island, unless said carrot WANTS to glow in the dark).


06 May 08 - 05:35 PM (#2334362)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: My guru always said

Will get your corkscrew back to you at some point Richard, but alas not this weekend. So wish we could get along to join you all, have a Fab Time!!!


06 May 08 - 06:19 PM (#2334399)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Cap n' Ella

Any Cows or sheep looking for a safe haven should come over to Bobbing, they'll be totally undetectable amongst all this bloody rape!

Have a great time at the weekend, sadly we're booked to be somewhere else but we'll sup a pint or two for Pete & Jacqui.

Tony


06 May 08 - 06:25 PM (#2334404)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: GUEST,dilligaf

Oh we have rape on the peninsular as well lots of rape....... and linseed as well Plans seem to be coming together (me thinks) No cows in ST Rood but lots of dogs, Jack Russells are very popular.love and Hugs xx


06 May 08 - 06:52 PM (#2334420)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Cap n' Ella

Do we know this Lin Seed, is she a singer?

xx


06 May 08 - 09:12 PM (#2334487)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Girl Friday

You get a lot of cows down Chatham High Street


07 May 08 - 06:21 AM (#2334711)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: The Barden of England

Quite a few dogs too


07 May 08 - 07:05 AM (#2334736)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

Look, it's obvious. There is no meat in any of St. Rude, Rochester, Rainham or Gillingham. We will all get our "Meat on the Ledge".


(Gets coat)


07 May 08 - 08:20 AM (#2334780)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Girl Friday

So, no whale meat again then?


07 May 08 - 01:36 PM (#2335042)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: The Barden of England

I really would love to come and pay homage to two lovely people, but we've got the Radio 1 roadshow here this weekend, and getting back into town and parking is going to be a complete nightmare, and what's more #2 daughter is here too. I'll raise a glass to them in remembrance.
Now out of sight, but never out of mind.
John Barden


07 May 08 - 04:34 PM (#2335161)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: growler

Richard
Don't you mean it's not safe to be a sheep on the Isle of Grain


08 May 08 - 09:06 AM (#2335665)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Girl Friday

Not if you live at Upper Dogsbottom, alledgedly of course.


08 May 08 - 10:55 AM (#2335753)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

Probably fewer of them are shot with crossbows than other things are.


08 May 08 - 09:54 PM (#2336196)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: GUEST,dilligaf

IS the bard off to see Madonna (with the pointed boobies) We,ll save you a sausage for later. Don,t forget my 50th birthday party on the 7th of June and I want no excuses and Dont forget to bring midge repellant on Saturday as some of them out here are big enough to BBQ love and hugs xx


09 May 08 - 07:20 AM (#2336412)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

The beer has arrived and is sitting under nice cooling towels in the shade...


09 May 08 - 12:07 PM (#2336607)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: GUEST

wish we could be there, alas have to work....staff problems!
Have a really great time, love to all down in Kent
Wendy and Bill xx


09 May 08 - 12:41 PM (#2336625)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: billybob

OOOPs, that guest was me!
wendy x


09 May 08 - 02:41 PM (#2336697)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Don(Wyziwyg)T

Alas, the wife's still too poorly to travel, or to leave alone for more than an hour or so. Therefore, I shan't be among the celebrants tomorrow.

I will raise a glass to two very good and sorely missed friends, and to those left behind.


Don T.


09 May 08 - 03:41 PM (#2336722)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

Alas Jo (Jacqui's first daughter) will not be able to make it: her first daughter Eleanor, has chicken pox and is very spotty and quite not well. Many of you have heard Rachel sing - but she will be in the Costa Plenty. I don't think any of you have heard Dominic rattle the 88s - but he will be in Australia where he lives. You ought to hear all three some time (not together, they don't do that) because all partake in Jacqui's musical talent in different ways and all are brilliant. Jo and Dominic also have the muse from Barry their father.

The garden is looking pretty good with a herd of large and small tentage, and there are 5 barbecues lined up in a row so some of you had better attend.

Pete's 12-string will be de-mothballed and tuned for the occasion in the hope that some serious guitarist will play it in memory. I will of course have Jacqui's Hagstrom out.


09 May 08 - 05:06 PM (#2336780)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: growler

I'll be there with Shirt Muderer and Carrie, but I can't sodding drink


09 May 08 - 05:09 PM (#2336783)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Kev The Clogs

oh yes you can Growler - I've seen you!!!!


09 May 08 - 05:15 PM (#2336786)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: growler

Not with these pills, I can't


09 May 08 - 05:33 PM (#2336798)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

Metronidazole?


09 May 08 - 07:28 PM (#2336863)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Kev The Clogs

I know :-( well, you'll have to make up for it at Val's Birthday Party then!! :-)


09 May 08 - 07:38 PM (#2336872)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Girl Friday

George Pap says he would have come but it's Johnny Collins 70th and he's helping him celebrate


10 May 08 - 04:58 AM (#2337019)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: My guru always said

Have a Fab time this weekend (wonderful weather), I'll raise a glass (or 2) single-handedly *grin*


10 May 08 - 04:58 PM (#2337313)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: growler

A very pleasant afternoon
Thanks Richard and Val


11 May 08 - 06:31 AM (#2337562)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Girl Friday

Indeed it was, sorry to have to leave early, but we had a fab eveninh's entertainment at Croydon.


11 May 08 - 07:41 AM (#2337577)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Richard Bridge

It was a very nice gathering - not too many people but plenty enough, probably about 40 people passed through. Jacqui's brother Rob who normally only does electric sang a song and played a guitar accompaniment on another.

Jacqui's older daughter Jo was unable to make it as her new (ish) daughter Eleanor had chicken pox. Those who knew said it was a shame not to hear her sing again but we can do that some other time.

Keith Pearson (who used to run the first club that Jacqui and I started going to when we started folking again in Kent) came and sang a lot excellently. He has a splendid dark brown soulful voice, not as big and round as Peter Collins, but with more of a "catch" in it, and is a useful guitarist too.

John and Maureen Morgan, who ran Hull (or was it Newcastle) folk club for a long time even longer ago, right back in the days of "the soup", produced a few really excellent North Eastern songs, ones not often heard today, including a cracking version of the Grey Cock (without the chorus, and a different tune to the one that Pete HIcks used to play).

The garden was looking nice after Dilligaf's efforts with lots of gazebos. There is half a barrel of beer left but Growner is coming to collect it for a do they are going to on Wednesday.

Dilligaf had a really splendid idea. I don't know if you know about the chinese fire lantern balloons - like big chinese lantern lampshades and you light a little burner (a bit like a firelighter) in the bottom and they turn into a hot air balloon with a flame inside and float off into the sky glowing. We lit three, one for Pete Hicks, one for Jacqui, and one for Dave Bryant at about 11 pm and off they went into the night sky. It was a really soppy but nice moment. Sort of Viking funeral moment above the garden.


Everything cleared and sorted by noon today.

Thanks to all who came for the memories.


11 May 08 - 07:57 AM (#2337582)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: melodeonboy

Thanks ever so much, Richard and Val. What a wonderful get-together, and great to see you playing Pete's guitar, Richard. I'm sorry I had to leave early, but I had a really good time.


11 May 08 - 12:07 PM (#2337697)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: My guru always said

Glad it went well! Lovely idea about the lanterns for Jacqui, Pete & Dave, I can just see them smiling!


11 May 08 - 07:16 PM (#2337959)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: Girl Friday

Lovely idea about the lanterns. A soppy moment maybe, but a poignant one I'm sure.


12 May 08 - 05:07 AM (#2338161)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: GUEST,dilligaf

Just to say Thank you and love to one and all xxxxxxx
And don,t forget 7th of June My house MY 50th Party time !! email or contact me through here dilligafxx long story but thats who I am now xx


12 May 08 - 09:17 AM (#2338307)
Subject: RE: PHicks+JacquiWMemory BBQSing N.Knt 10/5
From: GUEST,Essex Girl

Wonderful occasion, I loved the singing from Maureen & John Morgan. Great weather and beer.Shame Ruff & Reddy couldn't stay longer. Didn't want to go home on Sunday so I spent the rest of the afternoon round (and in) my daughters pool and then stayed for another BBQ.