Mudcat Café message #3955617 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #161867   Message #3955617
Posted By: wysiwyg
09-Oct-18 - 07:41 AM
Thread Name: BS: stay afloat while others don't
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
I agree.

It sometimes happens that a toxic person's life deals them (out of your vision) just the right lesson that they needed to find their way to health. They often then have a desire to make amends-- before realizing their need may cause more harm than balm.

It's important to remember that, in the event that is ever their intention-- however grand that might be FOR THEM-- they can never catch up to where you've had to grow. They can never be a partner in any kind of relationship until your own healing is complete and, even then, it can never be close to equal. Their next (healthiest) step will always be to hear "no".