Mudcat Café message #3849775 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #161867   Message #3849775
Posted By: Mr Red
10-Apr-17 - 03:34 AM
Thread Name: BS: stay afloat while others don't
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
vicarious pain.
Take heart that it is not as bad second hand.
If people ask for help, you will be there. If they don't, all you have is dropping hints about the possibility of solutions.

Don't put yourself between two fighting dogs. You will be preventing them from doing what they do.

As a very insightful GF once said to me "people gravitate towards the familiar" - (not the comfortable). They become inured to it. But you know that surely.