Mudcat Café message #3561819 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #152273   Message #3561819
Posted By: Bonnie Shaljean
27-Sep-13 - 07:15 AM
Thread Name: BS: Why I am gone
Subject: RE: BS: Why I am gone
I can only repeat - nay, stress - what Noreen has already said. In fact, I think I will. She speaks for me too, and speaks volumes. Underlining is mine:

> I do think before I post - (I have thought about this for years as this forum has changed beyond recognition) and generally decide not to bother posting as I don't enjoy being abused.

> I still do come here, for old times sake . . . but I don't feel safe here like I used to and I'm far more wary about posting anything at all personal.

I just withhold comment now, in places where I feel I actually have something to contribute to the discussion, to protect myself. And then I feel resentful because it's another form of gagging. Self-censorship is no less censorship, even if it's done out of self-defense.

It's another response to bullying, i.e. don't give it a chance to happen in the first place. And the only way is to just exclude yourself. But I'm annoyed that I feel I have to.

I also note with sorrow the departure of so many people whose company I valued, and whom I would/do welcome back if they decide to return. Add this to the loss of those whose departure was not by choice - as far too many Obit threads attest - and it leave quite an aching hole. Kendall made a good point about this in the parallel "Announcing one's return to Mudcat" discussion.

Once again, Noreen says it better than I could:

To absent friends *clink* :)