Mudcat Café message #3410456 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #147102   Message #3410456
Posted By: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
26-Sep-12 - 10:34 AM
Thread Name: BS: 'Gay marriage' question
Subject: RE: BS: 'Gay marriage' question
Musket, first of all, Thank You...your post was straight ahead,...and no, I don't think that they need different names...It is the supposition of all the fanatics that think that I'm trying to get people to draw a line, by asking the question that I did. That's their problem, not mine.
Did you find in your first marriage a different 'feeling' and 'motivation' than the second? I know that when marriages dissolve many people have the 'need' to have another, and some do not. In any event, going into a second has different trepidations than the first, which often was more 'innocent'. I don't know your exact situation, so I wouldn't venture a guess....but what I can say, is that the second usually has a different set of 'cautions' not to repeat the pains of the first...and those pains, I'm sure, affected the children, as well, and for that, I'm sorry for all concerned.
It just seems that for all intended purposes, that only if the first on, with the children could have gone to it's full measure.
I think what I'm getting at, is that one word, or feeling that separates those two experiences apart from each opposed to a 'third. or fourth, or just co-cohabiting with no commitment whatsoever. Also, the pair-bonding that goes on between parents and each other, and that with your children, is in itself a unique experience for all concerned.
Thank you for your response.