Mudcat Café message #3103221 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #135365   Message #3103221
Posted By: Stilly River Sage
26-Feb-11 - 04:54 PM
Thread Name: BS: Declutter, Exercise, Diet, February 2011
Subject: RE: BS: Declutter, Exercise, Diet, February 2011
Michelle, in the first couple of years you'll see more "side by side" play with the little ones, instead of both playing at the same game together, so don't be surprised. They'll be glad to see each other, then proceed to play individually with the various toys.

My austerity measures are in play, and are remarkably useful as I work on the procrastination reform. If I don't put off doing some things like shopping or cooking, I'm less likely to use a more expensive shortcut. Decluttering myself of habits of spending money has been an important goal. All incoming cash during the month that isn't paycheck goes strictly to paying down cards. I hope that along with paying off bills and using time better, my work will lead to weight loss. The big three, time, money, weight!

In the procrastination reform, I find that keeping a running steno pad of notes at the computer, and drawing a box around a short 3-item list of things to do each day is the best way to stay on task. Rather than letting myself be distracted by having to get up to check something now as it occurs to me, I make a note and do it at a better time.

As far as the discussion of "toxic people," I agree with Kat. It's shorthand for the individuals that we personally are unable to influence as far as their behavior toward us (and frequently, but not always, with others). They generally only do us harm when they are in our presence, and rather than keep pounding our heads against the wall in trying to deal rationally with irrational people, one finally has to take the self-protective measure of simply cutting off all contact with that person. They may still get along with others for various reasons, and there is no reason they should be exterminated, Nazi (!) or any other style. In my instance, the one person with that designation has an un-diagnosed but very recognizable mental health problem. That individual has manufactured a button that he pushes himself when he's in my presence. There's simply no way to defend yourself against something like that.