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Chicken Charlie 2b or not 2b (22) RE: 2b or not 2b 29 Aug 01

Dear Nite-- Best things said so far have been to be safe and to select a partner you trust. What needs to be emphasized more, maybe is the bonding aspect. With any sensitivity at all, you will remember the person and the event for the rest of your life. It's nice to understand clearly what you and your partner both think is involved in terms of commitment. Doing a one-nighter knowingly is one thing; doing a one-nighter that you think is the start of something is hell if the other person doesn't feel the same. Just from personal experience, my first lady has honestly not been out of my thoughts very much for the last 35 years; it's not always easy to accept separation.

Also if I infer from your second question that you are considering such a relationship, I would advise against it. This may sound odd, but as an ex-teacher & educational administrator it is not fair to the person in that role. It's like men in hospitals falling "in love" with their nurses; it's a confusion of rolls and deserves very careful thought. Even without knowing details, I would tend to say it's a bad idea, probably BECAUSE OF, not IN SPITE OF, the fact that we all fantasize about it.


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