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Helen BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s) (73* d) RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s) 25 Sep 19


Yes, meself, I find myself doing exactly that at the oddest moments and having done a lot of things I regret I sometimes wish I could delete those memories just like I can delete a file on my computer.

One thought I get is that when I am older (than my current mid-60's) and if I get dementia will I start rabbiting on to complete strangers about all this stuff in my head.

On the other hand, if I hadn't taken some risks in life I would have regretted that too. And some of my life choices have been good for me.

Some of my regrets are based on my younger self's fears and lack of understanding of the "big picture" of life, which I gained as I got older. Looking back from this perspective I could have told my younger self to have more faith in the way that life can work out if I could just stop worrying so much about everything. Now, I just trust in my own capabilities to see more clearly and to make rational and reasoned decisions - most of the time. LOL

In my last job, I had to make rational and reasoned decisions based on the policies and procedures and be able to stand by my judgement if someone challenged me on those decisions. As long as I could come up with a good rationale for the decisions, the managers left me to get on with it. I like that idea in my personal life too. No one else will make the same choices as me because we are all unique human beings, but my goal is to see as clearly as possible and make rational choices based on what I see.

Someone somewhere/somewhen once told me that life learning is like an upward spiral. You go through similar experiences in life until you learn what you need to learn but each time you experience something similar you come at it with a slightly more aware perspective. Assuming that you learn by experience, of course.

You are not on your Pat Malone on this one.


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