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lefthanded guitar BS: Host and guest; what's the protocol? (17) BS: Host and guest; what's the protocol? 29 Sep 14

Well I know this isn't a 'Miss Manners' forum, but b/c we musicians travel a lot and 'visit' people, I've been wondering about this. What is expected of a guest and host these days? As a guest, I usually bring a small gift or offer to take someone out to dinner (and of course change the linens, clean up after myself, etc) ; but when I have hosted people in the past (not that often these days) I always provided food, but not usually paying for entertainment (movie, concert, etc) of guests. I have found that in the last few years whenever I've been 'put up' by friends, they almost never offer meals- I can bring my own, use the kitchen on occasion, or go out to eat. One friend who put me up in her beach house a few years ago indicated that I should bring food for the both of us.

Not sure when this changed, when I was coming up the host always supplied meals, but no longer- the only place I've been 'welcomed' in the old fashioned way is visiting in the southeast U.S.
So am I being anachronistic in my expectations- what are you all doing these days regards friends (not relatives) staying over.

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