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Mickey191 BS: Hoarding/OCD-True Story (14) BS: Hoarding/OCD-True Story 09 Feb 09


I'm telling this long story to find out if anyone has gone through anything like this   and also to alert people to keep a watchful eye out for clues that a friend or relative might be in acute distress.

The subject is my 60 year old cousin who had been normal in every way until a sudden turn in his thinking resulted in the following.

We are all still grieving and the circumstances uncovered have left us all in shock. I can't get it out of my mind.

Just 3 weeks before he'd been hospitalized.
I talked to him everyday & he was at the top of his form. Laughing, joking & entertaining fellow patients & staff. One nurse was overheard saying-"every time I pass this room there is laughter to be heard. "

When he was released they wanted him to go to a rehab place--but he refused. Just wanted to get home. He did confide in me that he'd been seeing a staff physychiatrist. That puzzled me-but I didn't want to intrude & ask questions.

He was home about a week & I spoke for over an hr. on the 28th. He was in good form & our cousin, Jane spoke the next day. He was relaxed & joking with her.

The bottomline is that Jason called the ambulance around 8:30 pm on the 30th. He was in distress with a heart problem. He died that night.

Now for the unbelievable part. Jason had OCD & was a hoarder--meaning he did not throw _anything_ out--I mean anything! Among the piles of stuff:--- a yrs.worth of take out food containers-Hundreds of soda bottles-newspapers, magazines dating back years, empty cigarette boxes, a pile of used kleenex 4 ft. high, thousands of plastic bags, there were 1100 vhs movies. Hundreds of books strewn about.   Some piles went to the ceiling. Thru each room was a path about 10 inches wide-surrounded by every kind of junk one can imagine. He could not cook because the
stove was piled high with crap.

The conclusion we've drawn was that every meal was delivered-for all these yrs. Manys the time we'd be on the phone & he'd excuse himself to get a pizza or Chinese food delivery.

He had a 3 room ap't.(far from relatives) & each room was as described above. He had ONE uncluttered seat on the couch where he'd watch TV. There was no cleared surface anywhere.

He kept a bit of a diary & those who have read it say this had been going on for about 5 yrs. (Previous to that time,he sent me pixs of different parties he'd had & all was normal.)

Then he had a pacemaker put in & he retired. To walk a block exhausted him & he would not allow company to visit. We were never given a solid reason why we couldn't see him. We all felt that as long as we had phone talks that he was okay. He was ALWAYS upbeat & had friends whom he visited at their homes.

Jason had a genius IQ, held a responsible job always, had been well traveled. had many friends, was wickedly funny, mordant wit. He was gay and was accepted by all in the family. He was dearly loved & KNEW it.

My heart is broken-he was my most favorite cousin and I'm so damn sorry that his last years were as described. He must have been in such turmoil over his situation and yet could not share this with anyone. It took Nine people and 2 huge trucks to empty the place.

I'm so baffled as to how a person who was clean and stylish turns on a dime into this Anyone have experience with this? Thanks for your time. Mickey191


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