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Jack (Who is called Jack) Musical Ettiquette 2:Guitar vs. voice (56* d) RE: Musical Ettiquette 2:Guitar vs. voice 27 Sep 99

One thing I know about people who go to folk oriented group music events is that most of the time they do so because they have a tremendous desire to sing a particular kind of music a particular way. Its almost a compulsion or a need. The intensity of that drive is what fosters a lot of the behavior were describing. These circles are seen by some as their only chance to do something they really want to do. Unfortunately this area of music is so eclectic that ten different people can have ten different agendas for the session, and are unaware that there are 9 others out there.

Also, a lot of people who like this music have a personality trait that I know I share. The 'I don't care much what other people think of me' trait. Its why I spent my high school years buying albums of this obscure art form while others in my class were listening to Boston and Journey. In most cases this isn't a disregard for others, but rather the position that you should do what you want until you hear that its bothering someone. This position puts the burden on the other person to "Take responsibility for expressing their feelings when they want change". Again the view is not that 'What others think doesn't matter" its that if others want me to adapt to what they want, they have to 1) let me know, and 2) convince me that they are asking something reasonable. Life's too short to spend guessing about what others want of me.

Of course if you put this attitude in the same room with ten different experiential agenda's and no formal rules in place, you get what everybody's complaining about in this thread.

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